I have also been raped by a Black man but I do not hate or fear all Black men. The difference really is that some women like us are willing to deal with our trauma and not treat people with prejudice and disdain. We are so unique because of the love we have and the support we are able to give to others despite our experiences.
Yes, they lie about their feelings and deny their own bias. They seem unwilling to accept their own imperfections. As black women, we are strong and deserve real allies.