Accepting racists into your inner circle is deeply insecure. Maybe you should check your values, and ensure that you are living by them. Because differences of opinion are different from an ideology that disregards the humanity of another group.

I don't need to grow to accept racists. You need to grow to realize that it's a good idea to kick harmful people out your life. Unless, of course, you are the racist that's about to get cut off, which you clearly are.