I am just trying to clarify my point that sex and sexual identity are different principles that are often conlfated. It's all fine and well to go after gender norms. Just because someone says I am a female on my birth certificate does not mean I have to consider myself one. But it does not change the fact that I was originally characterized by my physical qualities. Even as a baby I was Black.

Race is a social construct but it still impacts my life so it is relevant and I choose to accept this aspect of myself. Some Black people (like Fredrick Douglas, famously told people he was not a Negro because his mom was white). So, social constructs can be rebelled against when they don't match what is in someone's heart.

However, I just disagree that it is inherently wicked to categorize. It is only wicked or oppressive to try to keep somone in that original characterization.

If someone tells you that your eyes are brown and then you correct them and say "no, they are hazelnut" then that person should respect that their language incorrectly characterizes your physical qualities. But it is not wrong to originally think someone's eyes are brown. It is wrong to deny them the right to characterize themselves.

Yes, we are both clear that gender is a social construct. However, it is not arbitrarily assinged as you insinuated. It is assigned based on our biological sex at birth. That is it. It's not any more compicated that that.

You are assigned a gender based on your sex but that does not mean you have to fulfill all the stereotypes or gender norms associated with that sex. I think we do understand each other as well.

I think my only true issue is that I don't buy into the idea that sex is inherently wrong. I think that people should not be held down by their sex but denying the existence of sex is kind of backwards and it is what a lot of people are doing.

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