It's horrible that these men used gay men as the butt of their jokes. There is nothing funny except their fragile egos.
You are right - homophobia and transphobia are misogynistic, relying on the lesser status of femininity to bash women and the LGBTQ community.
I appreciate hearing your perspective because you are right about social conflicts you endured. I think you manage this brilliantly. Thanks for sharing your writing. One day, yours should enter text books or people to learn. The less ignorance, the better for all of us. ❤️