In an effort to find common ground that leads to shared understanding, I’m their safe Black friend when I agree on one minor aspect of their assessment of a racially charged incident and tone down a forceful voice of disagreement on the many major aspects. In doing so, I protect their encapsulated worldview and avoid having to deal with their defensiveness.
Deborah L. Plummer
Your article did an amazing job of confronting the uncomfortableness. White friends need to move past their bias. However, they can only do that by admitting that this bias exists.